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Is it too soon/young to ask my girl to marry me or should i wait it out? ADVICE & MATURE ANSWERS PLEASE!? Im 24 and am crazy about my girlfriend who i've been dating for 4yrs and she is all i want in life. She is 22 and the most beautiful person i've ever seen in my life, she has a beautiful personality to go with it. For the past 2 months i've been thinking about asking her to marry me, i've discussed it with two my my best friends and one of them thinks i should wait a few more years and that were too young but i want everyone to know how much i love her, my parents think we are too young and its just a faze but i know its not. My girlfriend is my life and we do have occasional fights and if i hurt her with something i've said she will blank me and it kills me inside, i do everything to get her not to be angry at me after it and it works so far the worst i've said to her was -first you give me mouth, now you're giving me ******* tears. Do me a favor, have a period or something- she flipped big time on that. We live together and i love waking up and she's the first thing i see. I guess im a little jealous when she talks to guys she has known before i met her but we trust one another 100%. I have a reputation of being an asshole to some people but my girlfriend keeps me grounded and buts me in my place, when she is fighting with me, cussing me out i just listen to her then just start kissing her, I adore the ground she walks on and i could stare at her for hours, i hold her every chance i can when she pulls away i pull her back into me or throw her over my shoulder and bring her to the bedroom etc. What would be the best advice on how to propose to her or do you think i should wait like everyone says? | I settled down with my first partner when we were about your ages, we were convinced that we were ready and we thought we knew everything and couldn't be told anything. Two guyren later and the
stresses off bills and running a home comes home to roost. My partner started coming home late and going out with his mates, eventually we broke up and realized that we weren't ready after all. I'm now with my second husband, who was 32 when we got married. I was his first wife. He said that he never got married before because he wanted to be sure that he had done all that he had wanted to do as a single man and when he got married and have guyren to make sure that he was totally ready to take on this commitment for life. He has turned out to be the most wonderful, grounded and dependable man I have ever come across, yet he tells me that he was a bit of a selfish looser in his early 20,s. If you are determined to go ahead with your proposal, be 100% sure, because it is not fair on any guyren that come along if it all goes wrong. good luck! | I TOLD THIS GUY MY AGE AND THEN HE IGNORES ME, WTF? This is a bit of a stoy so hang on tight please
Alright, so I'm on a boat in Thaland going to Koh Pangnan, I go on deck to check out the view and get a sunburn or two, some guy is coming my way and I move from the side to get out of the way, in the midst of doing so, I accidentally gently kick some older lady's bag. I say, sorry, but she mumbles some ****, I can't hear what she saying so I bend down and say, "excuse me?" then she looks up and replies to me in a ******* odd *** chipmunk voice and says, "Excuse me? Excuse me? Did I say something that embarassed you?" I look up and see everyone looking at the woman like what the **** is her problem, and looking at me like, 'are you gonna beat her *** or what?' Npt wanting to cause a scene cause I'm a good and mature young lady who doesnt reply to people in chipmunk voices, I queitly and calmly say, "No, you didn't embarass me." and go back to where I was standing.
End of part 1
Beginning of Part 2
Alright so then suddenly a French guy that was sitting next to the woman asks her, "Why were you talking **** like that to that girl over there?" And the woman replies to him and he basically cusses her our (ddin;t catch much of it) The woman gets up in shame, and the man pats his hand on the deck laughing and calls me over to sit down (there wasnt enough room on deck for me to sit). We talk about the freak woman and talk a bit about ourselves, but behind everything the man is sayuing theres like some sort of flirty message behind it, which sorta creeped me out. Anyways, we go deeper into disucssionand he asks me how old I am, I say 13, ( I look like I'm 18 or 19 cause opf my height and "mature looking" face and "deeper" voice I guess) and h e looks all startled. It gets awkward so I say Im gonna get my bags and blah blah. But he bluntly replies yeah okay yeah yeah, and as I'm leaving I see his looking at me from the boat and I wave to him but he ignores me and I wave to him again and I know he sees me but he ignores me. So I'm all like okay then and walk on
Thanks for reading, now can someone tell me why he got all sulky after I told him my age and ignored me? I was kind of in pain for a day. | Hiya, sometimes there are many other reasons things happen and it can be easy to read things into a situation, it's not worth worrying about really :)
Anyway, certainly from the story you told the guy had mistaken your age and was hoping to get a bit more friendly with you. lol
Perhaps it came as a bit of a shock to him when he found out how old you are and then he was to embarrassed to wave back at you? | I feel like my mother doesn't love me.? Last Sunday was my 21st Birthday so I wanted to go out at 12:00 on saturday. My mother watched my son so I could go out i dropped him off at 11p.m. and went out that night. She never gave me a time to pick him and anytime shes ever watched him over night I get him right around lunch time. Shes perfectly fine with that. I woke up to her calling my cell phone and slept later then normal. When I answered she said what the **** are you doing?! I said sleeping...Shes like what do you mean sleeping? I said I guess I over slept im sorry. She said to come get your ******* guy. My 7 year old neeces live with her and you can hear them in the background saying yeah because were going to the store. When I got to her house ( I only live two blocks away). Shes like you look like ****. Which really I didn't and shes like you need to get your drinking under control. I drink maybe once a month if that. She told me off and said I ruined her day because normally she goes to my grandmothers house on sundays and claimed it was to late to go now even though she normally goes there around 1:00 & stays till 6. and it was 1:00 when I picked him up. I later found out from my cousin & aunt that she never planned on going there because my cousin just had a baby and she thought my neece might have pink eye and didnt want them around the baby. Really she just screamed at me because my 7 year old neece wanted to to go to the store right then and I wasn't there yet to pick him up. After my mom screamed at me my neece kept screaming and cussing at me to get out of her house and was not corrected. My neece cuses at me all the time and days she hates me and hopes me and my son die.my mom never corrects her for it and i'm not allowed to say anything about it. I really love my neece & try being really nice to her so she knows I love her. Ever since she took in my neeces when I was 14 she acts like im not her guy. She never went to any of of cheerleading games or matches. We use to spend time together shopping,going out to lunch,ect. I understood then and now why we might not do as much together because the girls are time comsuming. But the day of my birthday she never even told me happy birthday only that I ruined her day. I haven't had a birthday cake since I was 16 or 17. I can't remember the last time she told me she loved me or even that she was proud of me. And im a very mature young women I live on my own ..the most I ever ask of her to to watch him once in a while. I've tried talking to her about everything her answer is that im jealous of the girls or I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. But I'm not jealous I love them very much and am fine with my mom being so busy with them. I dont think I feel sorry for myself I'm just not understanding and am trying to figure why I'm upset. She hasnt talked to me since my birthday and i havent talked to her because im upset and don't want to argue about it or have her say something thats going to hurt my feelings more. Am i being dramatic or do moms stop telling you they love you and doing the birthday thing when you get older? Any advise on this or imput. Im just really confused... | | tl;dr. Your mother always loves you no matter what. | A mature one? Two old pensioners are taking a trip down memory lane by going back to the place where they first met.
Sitting at a café, the little old man says, "Remember the first time I met you over 50 years ago? We left this cafe, went round the corner behind the gas works, and I gave you one from behind."
"Why, yes, I remember it well, dear," replies the little old lady with a grin.
"Well, for old time's sake, let's go there again. and I'll give you one from behind."
The two pensioners pay their bill and leave the cafe. A young man sitting next to them has overheard the conversation and smiles to himself, thinking it would be quite amusing to see two old pensioners at it. He gets up and follows them. Sure enough, he sees the two pensioners near the gas works. The little old lady pulls off her knickers and lifts up her dress.
The old man pulls down his pants and grabs the lady's hips, and the little old lady reaches for the fence. Well, what follows is 40 minutes of the most athletic sex the man has ever seen. The little old man is banging away at the little old woman at a pace that can only be described as phenomenal. Limbs are flying everywhere, the movement is a blur, and they do not stop for a single second. Finally, they collapse and don't move for an hour.
Well, the man is stunned. Never in his life has he ever seen anything that equates to this -- not in the movies, not from his friends, not from his own experiences.
Reflecting on what he has just seen, he says to himself, "I have to know his secret. If only I could shag like that now, let alone in 50 years' time!"
The two old pensioners have by this time recovered and dressed themselves. Plucking up courage, the man approaches the pensioner.
He says, "Sir, in all my life I have never seen anybody shag like that, particularly at your age. What's your secret? Could you shag like that 50 years ago?"
The pensioner replies, "Son, 50 years ago, that ******* fence wasn't electrified." | | Haha that's hilarious...I guess I know what I have to do to get my boyfriend to perform better ;) | Love help - PLEASE MATURE ANSWERS ONLY!? Here's the story. I like this guy. He likes me. We're going out.
Simple enough, right? But here's the backstory. I went to Prom alone, like I said I would. I asked him to dance, because he seemed lonely, and I thought everyone should have fun (like I was at the time). But then... as the night went on, it was like I cound myself drawn to him. And when we went to afterprom together, we started talking, and it turned out that we had A LOT in common. It was a little strange, actually - like something clicked that just refused to click before.
Thing is? I'm ******* scared now.
I've NEVER felt like this before; at least, I don't think I have. It's like, the other guys were just there. And this guy - this one guy that I felt compelled to ask to dance - is totally different from what I expected. But those other guys - the guys who were 'just there' - turned my heart into confetti. I KNOW this could turn into more, but I don't know if I can let it. Pretty much, if I don't do something soon, I'm going to be really, really hurt when it ends. (I'm not into the whole 'marriage' thing - it made my parents miserable.) I feel like I'm too young for this, but at the same time, I don't want to let it go.
So please help! ANYTHING YOU HAVE TO SAY WOULD BE APPRECIATED! | I was in this nearlly exact same situation!
You don't HAVE to open your heart to him, but wouldn't it be beautiful if you could. No one is ever too young for love. I was 15 when I met my fiance, and we've now been engaged for 7 months!
I know you're not into the marriage thing but you don't have to focus on that..
Just know, if you stay with him, big deal. If you decide to be on your own, big deal! It's completely up to you.
In my opinion, give him a chance, give it a few weeks and see how it goes.
You'll know, in your heart, if you'll ever lose him or not. you've got to be honest to your self. :) | How to have a more mature relationship? OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 3 years, and I'm starting to want more from the relationship, I'm not bored, I just want MORE. I don't expect to be getting proposed to any time soon, as we are young and at 18 we have other more important stuff to think about but I feel like our relationship is very serious and has a future but I'm starting to need more than just seeing each other twice a week, him coming round, we might watch 5 mins of TV, go upstairs, have sex and lay in bed for ages and then he has to go home. It actually sounds really bad put out like that but that seems to be what happens every time I see him, sometimes I feel used but I feel that's stupid as if he was really using me surely he would have just gone on to the next girl and forgot about me, but we really have chemistry and I know he loves me. I think maybe we are just immature and maybe don't know how to move things on a bit at this age, as we are quite limited to how far we can commit at this point.
How do I talk to him about this? I'd love to get him to take me out once in a while, I'll cook him dinner, We could go for walks and I want to have more of a less physical way of showing that we care. Love the sex but its not enough on its own. I sometimes suggest these things but I want some input from him now. I think that's the problem with us, we don't seem to know how to show affection other than, kissing, hugging and *******, surely they must be more we can do??? What would you suggest I do? And by the way I'm not leaving him because I think we can solve this. | | Well I have to tell you your bf is in he's prime as far as sex goes. You will not reach your prime until you are nearing your 40's. That is a fact. If you want to do more then start planning things with him. If you don't have money then do things like go to the park and pack a picnic, rent a movie and not a chick flick, write a poem about each other while sitting across from each other, play cards with friends, go to the museum, things of that nature. As long as I've been around men and I mature I know that sometimes you have to take the bull by the horn and make things happen. He may just be out of ideas and that could be a pattern with him throughout the relationship. Take those ideas and run with it. He will want sex a lot because of his age and appetite. | How do I make myself more mature? I have problems.... being physically close. I have severe intimacy issues. I have a few inklings why... but maybe it's just a lack of maturity.... I'm 16 going on 17 (no pun intended -_-) and I can't even kiss people without laughing nonetheless sexual things... jesus... I have so much anxiety. And every doctor I have ever encountereed has asked me if I got raped or molested what I was younger. I HAVE NOT! I want to ******* kill every ******* that asks that! I don't like being naked... if people are touching me (like doctors) it extremely bothers me. I can be very close and VERY very touchy with my friends but when it comes to relationships I'm jsut not comfortable.
How do I give myself more maturity.... so maybe I can get over this? | | If you're uncomfortable with sex due to lack of maturity, the most immature thing you can do is try to force yourself to grow into it. It will happen whenever it happens. It's not something that can be forced. | I'm Black - How can I get my little brother to stop listening to rap music? This is actually a 100% serious question...
I'm the oldest of 3 boys. We're all black, but our parents weren't born in America...
My problem is that I feel like my brother is becoming like the type of people I often criticize. The sheeple of society who grow up incapable of thinking for themselves.. and for some reason it breaks my heart.
ALL my youngest brother listens to is mainstream rap music - not even good rap music. It's like, what the ****? He used to listen to moderate rap music, but now he only listens to the dirty, underground rap music that I feel is so poisounous for a mind...
Artists like Lil Wayne, Gucci Mane, Waka Flocka, Curren$y, etc. These kinds of rappers that literally don't rap about anything positive. They just rap about the redundant things that rappers rap about. Money, cars, money, women, money, drugs, money, guns, money violence, money, being "hood", money, and money...
Please, I know this is really long, but I really need someone to take the time to read this, and help me out on the situation...
Recently my youngest brother has been acting like such a ******* douche bag.. and the fact that my dad had to move states for a nice job he landed about a year ago doesn't help too much.. because it's basically like my youngest brother is being raised by a single mother now...
He's rude to everyone in the family. He hates answering any sort of question, All he does is eat food and weight lift. For some ******* reason he ALWAYS wants to go out somewhere with his friends.. it's like stay in the ******* house every once in a while. He acts like MY car is his ******* car.. so when I say I'm using the car, he gets this ******* disgustingly annoying attitude with my as if the car is ******* his...
I just can't stand it anymore. When I was his age, yes I was trouble but I wasn't this ******* annoying. My middle brother was trouble too, but my middle brother is so ******* mature now... he used to be really immature.. but now he's almost as if not more mature than me...
But for some reason I don't know if my youngest brother will ever make that transition...
I really feel like the music he listens to is ******* a huge factor - although not the only one...
SO I'm asking you guys, seriously... how do I get him to broaden his sense of music? I mean I hate sounding like a snobby prick but, my parents were not born in this country... so we have a completely different culture.. we live in a upper middle class neighborhood.. but for some reason my youngest brother thinks that just because he's black.. he's allowed to act like a complete ghetto person.. I don't get it.. his friends are ridiculous.. he doesn't hang out with anyone he can bring into the house because they're the sketchiest people ever.
Please, you guys help me... plus he doesn't even have the courtesty to play his music at a moderate level.. he'll either play it really loud on his computer.. it stresses me out literally.. I feel my heartbeat speeding up when I hear the music because it's so negative...
How do I introduce him to more rap music that will open his mind up.. and allow him to basically start thinking for himself, start philsophizing etc..
Music like Nas, Talib Kweli, The Roots, Common, etc. Rappers who actually rap about stuff. Rappers who know how to dress appropriate, rappers who you can just tell actually have MIND.
I feel like the music my brother listens to now is almost poisonoing his mind.. he listens to it too much... I want to try to introduce my brother to some positive and influential black musicians like Bob/Ziggy Marley and some Jazz music I've recently got into.. only because I KNOW FOR A FACT he won't even consider listening to anything by a white musician...
I feel that as an older brother it's my obligation to at least try to guide my brother on a good path...
Please, you guys I really need your help and your advice... what do I do? Am I expecting too much from someone who is only 16 years old? How can I get my brother to realize that his constant listening to the really negative rap music is most likely the root of all his attitude issues, his rudeness, his selfishness, and his obliviousness to the things around him in life... | | So you think hip hop is corrupting him? If he cant think for his own he was already like that, its not hip hops fault | Family Problem. Please try helping me. Want mature advice only.? I have a family problem from a long time. To illustrate my problem first of all i would like to get all introduce to my family members. My family have 5 members - Mom, Papa, Eldest brother, Second elder brother and me, the youngest. Problem starts when my eldest brother cracked IIT and my second eldest brother can't. Because of his failure he became a frustrated person. He is right now working in a software firm as a senior software engineer..but he is not satisfied with his job. But there lies one more problem --- The problem is when he was in college he liked a girl of his batch but she refused him. Because of her refusal he became more frustrated and thinks that all girls are ******* *****. Since he can not relieve his frustration on others; he used to call everyday and cry on every single things thats goes out of his prediction. He used to emotionally torture my parents every single day via phone call and creeping on little things. He hardly have any friend to hang out with.
My problem starts when he comes home; he used to tease me on every single things and waits till am out of my temper and there then he starts beating me n abusing too. And he usually do this when my eldest brother is not at home. My parents support him on his this impotent act too and they only scold me. Recently i finished my engineering and dropped the offer of joining TCS because i want to b an IAS officer and from last 8 months am at home and preparing for that and i have to appear in it this May. He is 5 years elder to me and way physically stronger than me when it comes to fighting. I told this to my eldest brother he has suggested me to focus on my studies..and rented me a new house so that i can concentrate on studies. But by leaving home am really feeling wrong in terms of my parents ..even though my mother said that she dont care whether i live or die as she is concerned of his son first. But am feeling bad because if something medically bad happens to any of my parent..i would be not there to help them.
I thought of suiciding too but thats not a way of an IAS aspirant like me.
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1. My second eldest bro is bipolar by nature but he is refusing any medication so do my parents.
2. Beating has happened several times and this time it was way too serious .
3. Parents are against me and not talking to me a word.
4. Eldest brother is supportive but not fully. Can back out anytime.
5. Am financially dependent on my family for next one year more.
One more thing .. my family is very broad minded. They have brought me up like an angel very pampered one. But since when my brother failed in IIT entrance and in relationship this all began.
My eldest brother is 8 years older than me and other is 5 years.
Hoping for solution
Thanks | Richa, from you name I suppose you are a woman.right?
So you want to be an IAS officer? But do you know the most important part of being a female Administrative officer of such huge country where a woman needs to struggle a lot more than a man, is to have a good deal of assertiveness and even more gumption than men themselves? And by the way, you will need to be more proactive since for your subordinates will be needing more nudges from a female superior than a male one. Trust me, I am a govt. employee myself; and if you become an IAS I will probably be one among others to doubt you too, but will also be among the others to first acknowledge your authority too. But it wont happen until you try the same assertiveness and gumption in you personal life.
You might think why such a long lecture about being an IAS when the question is about personal life? I think you already guessed what I wanted by that. But to tell you loud and clear, you need to think about you - only you right now. It's not even a month from CSP, and it is not time to indulge in despair over treatment of your family to you. It is time for you to concentrate on studies. I say it because I'm seating for it too, but I never had the sort of damned dedication to study this requires and I hate to see somebody who has that, but is throwing away for a unhinged brother.
I don't blame your parents, since I guess it is a curious human nature that people sometimes forget to assess right and wrong, and parents forget about a strong but wronged guy over a weak guy. They are not in their proper state of mind because their love for your troubled brother is clouding theirs thoughts way too much, that doesn't mean that you also have to be out of your mind.
Just think, what if you don't assert control of your life right now and fall in despair along with them. You fear for them now, but will you be any use to them if you are in disarray yourself? You are in no place to help them right now, because they wont take any and neither you are capable. And anyway you can't even be with the if you are selected in IAS cadre, since there will be almost a year-long training involved before final posting. Hopefully they will be back to their senses be then and, you and your sane brother can sort out the mess with your troubled sibling.
And, by the way, didn't you say that your big brother is helping you out by renting you a house? Don't you think he deserves to see that his little sister succeed and not go down too. He trusts you and you need to return it. He alone should be good enough family for you right now. Others, you will have enough spare time to think about, may be after 2-3 years from now, and when hopefully I'll be among one of your sub-ordinates who will say, no, this 'Madam' has the mettle to lead us.
See you later, may be with a good lots of files for you to sign in your cabin in about 3 years? | How to propose your best & Guyhood friends sister for marriage ? So, here is the situation.
I have always liked her since I was in school. So did she, but nevertheless I proposed her nor she did. Now when I went to college, out of my home town, and had a girlfriend with whom I become committed over a period of time. She is still single!
I went to my frind's place, and my hometown, after 8 long years, saw her again, a beautiful, mature and a perfect young lady you can think to marry, and fall in deep love. So deep that I can't resist the deep loving thought of her.
Now my problem is, how to deal with the situation. How to deal with the intense emotion of my girl friend, she is very innocent too and I don;t want to hurt her.
Secondly, my friend, as I mentioned is my best buddy and my guyhood friend, have shared some good times in life...******* girls together, boozing and he knows my commitment to my gf.
How to convince him that I am serious for his lil sister, and want to marry her. And how to deal wit my gf.
Do you advise I should forget my buddy's sis or take a bold step and go with my instinct to marry my "guyhood love"
I am absolutely confused.
And btw, I am 27 and single. | | ok well ha where to begin,first when you went away to college you moved on found a girl was it love or someone occupying your time?and did you still think of that girl your friends sister all along and are you sure after seeing her its real love and not the idea of it all?could it be infautuation you will need to spent time with her to see if you are still suited and want the same things,,next shes your friends sister he was the one partying with you and know what your like with girls like going out getting drunk hooking up with girls,i mean you will have to prove you are in love with his sister are you really?he knowss you have a girl already so you need to end that if you are going to pursue his sister if you loved her all along go for it!but you will need to sit down and talk to her brother before you do,go with yoru heart,and the girl now you will need to sort out your feelings for her dont let it drag on because its going to hurt either way if you are going to leave her,only you know who you want to wake up to each day ,spend some time with her get to know her better now your friends sister good luck answer mine pleaseanswers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=An6evIRwRgGr7g_vAXfrTqDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090621102400AA8rngt |
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